While I was just trying to survive, I was met with
Widows are usually a lot older. You’re so strong. I’m not sure how you’re doing this.
(for the record: not helpful and me neither)
How did I get here?
Like so many of us who have experienced grief, I felt like I had just been dropped off at a destination I never intended to go, was unprepared for, and with no idea how to navigate my way back.
I bought into the belief that there will always be time for ‘living’ later in life — and this false sense of control was dramatically pulled out from under me, leaving me wholly unequipped when life as I knew it disappeared.
A place to be...Just Okay.
I felt alone, overwhelmed with others’ opinions and expectations, and in desperate need of a relatable space to feel understood and explore the radical course-change for the rest of my life.
I explored the few communities I could find that didn’t offer exactly what I was looking for.
I eventually processed (and still do) through counseling, which is amazing and has its place, but (by definition) feels clinical.
I craved a place where I could sit securely in the human experience of grief and feel understood in every stage of its unfolding — a place to be… Just Okay.
Grief, in every form.
I worked hard to create that place within my own life, and through that realized that now more than ever, that space is needed for all of us.
Whether you’re actively grieving, supporting a friend who is grieving, or just curious about grief, my hope is that you find what you need here.